I’ve thoroughly enjoyed my 50’s. And still am!
A great marriage. A beautiful home on the water. Healthy. Wonderful family and friends. Fun travel. Work that lights me up.
What’s not to love about all that?
Now I’m reluctant to turn 60. As if I had any control over it!
When I look through a half-empty cup lens, it’s so easy for me to see all the possible problems, difficulties, challenges, and troubles the next decade could hold.
But what if the 60s were good years? What if I continued to grow as a person? What if my life somehow got even better?
What if I developed new strengths and interests and passions? What if I met new friends? What if my relationships got even better? What if my work allowed me to make a difference for many women in the next 10 years?
These kind of “what if’s” make me curious, eager, and interested in what’s to come.
I like this state of mind much better than the worried, scared, awful-izing one.
What if 60 were a grand new adventure for you?
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Comment by Ruth — October 19, 2009 @ 6:12 pmSorry about that, Ruth. Still working out a few bugs. And sometimes it’s even operator — me! — error. It should work now, if you’d like to try it again.
Comment by admin — October 19, 2009 @ 8:16 pmAs my 40’s slowly edge me toward 50, I’m finding what you’re
Comment by Deonna Bishopp — October 20, 2009 @ 1:36 pmfeeling fits perfectly for where I am on my Journey!
My lightsister Katherine used to say to me all the
time, Deonna why are you playing what if all the time…
I was always saying what if he falls off his big wheel,
what if he eats something and I don’t know he’s
allergic! Now I look backwards on those early mothering
years and feel the crone I am now at this age & realize
that What if is a great adventure!!! Thank you for
always inspiring thought!
Deonna, nice to see you here. And thanks for taking the time to comment. Yes, most of my “What ifs” have been worries, too. What if . . . an adventure is definitely a more fun & exciting track for my mind to be on.
Comment by admin — October 20, 2009 @ 4:55 pmYears ago, I was in Al-Anon (long story) and learned a lot about myself. One of the things was to stop the ‘what ifs’ because focusing on those takes away the focus from other things. I have also learned that focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want makes a world of difference in life. So the what ifs are hard to get rid of, but it is possible.
Comment by Ruth — October 21, 2009 @ 6:06 pmGreat point, Ruth! This is one of the key foundations of my coaching work. So often we are clear about what we don’t want but not at all clear about what we do want. Over and over and over I’ve seen how dramatically someone’s life can change when they get clear about & focus on what they truly, deeply want.
Comment by Bonnie — October 23, 2009 @ 8:15 am