5 Steps to Loving Your 60s (even if you’re dreading them)

by Bonnie

Turning 60 and  bothered about it?

If you’re like many women “in the neighborhood” of 60, you are feeling apprehensive or concerned about being in your sixties. You might even be dreading it.

Yep, some women just sail through 60 but many other aren’t feeling good about their future and don’t know what kind of future they would feel good about.

If you want to live with joy, passion, and purpose at 60 and beyond here are five steps to help you move from dread to delight, from struggling with 60 to savoring your sixties.

1) Tune into Your Inner GPS.

Did you know you had an internal GPS?

What “lights you up” – what energizes and enlivens you – is your own wise, simple, easily accessible guidance system for your life.

Paying attention to what lights you up (and what doesn’t) connects you with your inner GPS. That guidance system points the way to a life you will love, a life with energy, aliveness, vitality, passion, joy, and purpose.

2) Do More of What Lights You Up.

Make a Lights List for yourself. Tune into your inner GPS as you do this.

What lights you up? What energizes and enlivens you? What brings a smile to your face just thinking about it?

Now do more of the things on your list more often.

When you do more of what you love, you’ll find more joy in each day

Well, duh! Isn’t this obvious? Yes, and it’s amazing how many of us are so focused on the busyness, the “shoulds,” and the routines of life that we forget about ourselves and what we want.

3) Face Your Fears

If turning 60 or being in your 60s troubles you, you’ve likely got some fears about this time of your life.

Take some time to identify your fears.

Which ones can you do something about? Do what you can do.

Which ones can’t you do anything about? Find ways to accept and make peace with what you can’t change or control.

Remind yourself of what has helped you deal with life’s challenges in the past.

Meditation? Exercise? Talking with trusted friends? Being in the present moment? Time in nature? Ways of quieting your Monkey Mind?

Whatever life tools have helped you before, bring them out now and put them to work on your 60s challenges.

4) Create a vision for your life.

You know you’re not ready for life to be over at 60. But what is your vision for your life in the next year or five years or 10 years?

Take some quiet time by yourself to reflect on what you truly, deeply want in your life. Don’t worry about if or how it could happen. For now, assume anything is possible (which it just might be!)

Ask yourself, “If I could wave a magic wand, what would I ask for in my life? What would I want my life to be like?”

Again, pay attention to what lights you up, to your inner GPS as you do this.

When you have a clear, compelling, energizing vision, it’s much easier to get excited about your future.

5) Take energizing steps in the direction of your vision.

Now it’s time to begin taking action to bring your vision to life.

Let your lights, your internal GPS guide you in choosing which actions to take.

What lights you up? Where do you have some energy? What are you curious about?  Take those steps next.

You don’t have to be miserable while you’re on the path to what you want. The steps toward your vision can be energizing and enlivening, not more draining tasks to do.

Lights on actions immediately put more of what you love into your life. They create more energy to move you toward your vision. Plus they make the journey – and your life – more fun!

Tune into your internal GPS.

Do more of what you love.

Face your fears.

Create a vision for your life.

Take energizing steps in the direction of your vision.

These five steps can help you move from dreading your sixties to delighting in them, from struggling with 60 to savoring your sixties.

P.S. I’ll be writing more about these five steps as well as offering individual and group coaching for women who want additional support applying the steps to their own lives.

In the meantime . . .What do you think about these steps? What questions do you have? What else would you like to know?  Click on Comments below and write away.

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1 Baby Boomer Girl February 12, 2010 at 6:35 pm

Pretty good steps, then, after stepping out in the desired direction, I often need to accept that the results may not happen, may be slower in coming, or life might change my direction altogether. I aim to ‘put out’ and let go’ at the same time …

2 Ann February 13, 2010 at 10:17 pm

Put out and let go at the same time? What are we talking about here?Hmmmmm.
I liked the fact that someone, in this case Bonnie, feels that we can fell happy joyous and free at 60 and beyond. I will have to drink some kool aide to get on this page!

3 Bonnie February 14, 2010 at 11:58 am

Yes, a lights on vision provides direction and it’s best not to be super-attached to it. People change. Visions evolve. Life happens. Other clues, signs, possibilities show up or don’t show up.

It is possible to be happy, joyous, and fulfilled after 60! I’m finding more and more examples of women who are doing this. And no evidence of them drinking the kool-aid. 🙂

Are there some challenges? Yes. But as you certainly know, Ann, there are challenges at any age.

4 Karen January 17, 2011 at 6:31 pm

All the things you said are so important. All very helpful to understand how we can enjoy our lives.
I’m keeping this list and reading further.

5 Bonnie January 17, 2011 at 7:39 pm

Hi, Karen! Glad you found this helpful. I hope you’ll find other useful info here and come back often.

6 noreen June 4, 2011 at 5:49 pm

just am having a hard time thinking about many things—such as how many more years do i have left? (i am very healthy in spite of having breast cancer). i am starting to see ageism in people with their demeanor to me. “hi honey…….here is your senior ticket…..i shop at THIS store that is for my age…… etc, etc, etc. i just need some mental inspriration. help!!!

7 Bonnie June 5, 2011 at 9:27 am

Hi, Noreen! How wonderful you are healthy in spite of having had breast cancer. I’m sure you’re grateful for your health in a way those who’ve had no health scares may not be.

Yes, this is a time of life which causes us to think about hard things like how many years do we have left. And a time when others’ ageism can be bothersome. It can also be a fun, fulfilling, meaningful, fully alive time.

Mental inspiration? I hope there’s much of that here on this site. If you haven’t found this Helpful Posts page, you might check it out. How else might I help you?

8 jane taylor May 26, 2015 at 8:31 pm

Wonderful advice just reading it gave me hope and knowing I am not alone has helped so much .I am learning how to live in the now for that’s all anyone truly has at any age.I choose to be happy and yes it is a choice and to accept what cannot be changed is the hardest one but I am getting there.

9 Bonnie May 27, 2015 at 11:43 am

Hi, Jane! Glad this article was helpful to you. Thanks for letting me know that. Living in the now, choosing to be happy, accepting what can’t be changed — that’s a great formula for living well. Good for you!

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