Comments on: No Fear in Now http://www.savoringyoursixties.com/no-fear-in-now/ create a life you love at 60 & beyond Tue, 31 Jan 2012 05:12:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Bonnie http://www.savoringyoursixties.com/no-fear-in-now/comment-page-1/#comment-114 Bonnie Wed, 20 Jan 2010 16:23:37 +0000 http://www.savoringyoursixties.com/?p=221#comment-114 Hi, Indigo! Welcome! Nice to have you commenting here. Good for you for realizing you wanted something different with your life. It's not uncommon, of course, for people in our lives to feel threatened by our changes and want us to be our same old selves. As you've noticed, fighting them doesn't work. Do you have one or two allies, people who do support your new vision? If so, I'd suggest you focus on them. Enjoyng the moments of your day is a great strategy. As is focusing on small steps that take you in the direction of your vision. Step by step, day by day, you can get there. If you'd like to share more about what your vision & how you're doing, please do. This is one place for you to get support. Hi, Indigo! Welcome! Nice to have you commenting here.

Good for you for realizing you wanted something different with your life. It’s not uncommon, of course, for people in our lives to feel threatened by our changes and want us to be our same old selves. As you’ve noticed, fighting them doesn’t work. Do you have one or two allies, people who do support your new vision? If so, I’d suggest you focus on them.

Enjoyng the moments of your day is a great strategy. As is focusing on small steps that take you in the direction of your vision. Step by step, day by day, you can get there.

If you’d like to share more about what your vision & how you’re doing, please do. This is one place for you to get support.

]]> By: Indigo Roo http://www.savoringyoursixties.com/no-fear-in-now/comment-page-1/#comment-112 Indigo Roo Sun, 17 Jan 2010 05:36:07 +0000 http://www.savoringyoursixties.com/?p=221#comment-112 This is a good point. A little over four months ago, I came to some massive realizations about my life, about where I was and where I needed to go. Trying to implement those changes has proven to be ... difficult. Its almost amazing how many people in my life want me to fail at this, to just be the 'old me' again -- these people are draining my joy and my hope for a future that makes sense to me. So, I see it now as a continual fight against those that want me to fall back into who I was before and the me who wants and embraces the idea of change. And sometimes, knowing how much I need to do, well, its overwhelming -- especially because I feel so alone. I think I'll try this. Focusing on today, on just what I can accomplish before I go to sleep tonight. I have the greater vision, plans are in the works, but I certainly don't need to obsess about it every single day or let those who want me to fail succeed. Today, I'll focus on enjoying the moments of my day. On being happy in the now and finding ways to bring a bit of what I want to accomplish into the moments of my day. This is a good point.

A little over four months ago, I came to some massive realizations about my life, about where I was and where I needed to go. Trying to implement those changes has proven to be … difficult. Its almost amazing how many people in my life want me to fail at this, to just be the ‘old me’ again — these people are draining my joy and my hope for a future that makes sense to me. So, I see it now as a continual fight against those that want me to fall back into who I was before and the me who wants and embraces the idea of change.

And sometimes, knowing how much I need to do, well, its overwhelming — especially because I feel so alone. I think I’ll try this. Focusing on today, on just what I can accomplish before I go to sleep tonight. I have the greater vision, plans are in the works, but I certainly don’t need to obsess about it every single day or let those who want me to fail succeed. Today, I’ll focus on enjoying the moments of my day. On being happy in the now and finding ways to bring a bit of what I want to accomplish into the moments of my day.

]]> By: Ruth http://www.savoringyoursixties.com/no-fear-in-now/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Ruth Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:46:47 +0000 http://www.savoringyoursixties.com/?p=221#comment-64 One way is to get up in the morning and tell yourself that it's going to be a wonderful day. I work with a woman who wakes up with the thought: what's going to happen today to mess up my day? She is always having 'bad luck'. She swears she doesn't think about it, but I know from working with her what her attitude is: she lives by Murphy's Law. And then she can't understand why she's always getting speeding tickets, she has problems with her car, her debit card won't work, and on and on. I used to be her, and I'm so glad I'm not now. Every day is a good day, no matter what happens. I think that the bad things that happen can be turned around as soon as we learn to express gratitude for not only the good things, but also the bad things. Yesterday is done; we can't change what happened. Tomorrow isn't here yet, and there are a lot of things we can't control, but we can control how we react to situations and how we act in those same situations, good and bad. There are still times I find myself sinking into the pity pot, but I have learned to allow myself a specific amount of time to wallow; then it's time to get back to living my life. One way is to get up in the morning and tell yourself that it’s going to be a wonderful day. I work with a woman who wakes up with the thought: what’s going to happen today to mess up my day? She is always having ‘bad luck’. She swears she doesn’t think about it, but I know from working with her what her attitude is: she lives by Murphy’s Law. And then she can’t understand why she’s always getting speeding tickets, she has problems with her car, her debit card won’t work, and on and on.

I used to be her, and I’m so glad I’m not now. Every day is a good day, no matter what happens. I think that the bad things that happen can be turned around as soon as we learn to express gratitude for not only the good things, but also the bad things. Yesterday is done; we can’t change what happened. Tomorrow isn’t here yet, and there are a lot of things we can’t control, but we can control how we react to situations and how we act in those same situations, good and bad.

There are still times I find myself sinking into the pity pot, but I have learned to allow myself a specific amount of time to wallow; then it’s time to get back to living my life.

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