How Not to Say the Wrong Thing

by Bonnie

griefIs there anyone among us who hasn’t at least once been at a loss for words or, perhaps worse, said something appalling when someone we love is in pain?

Death. Illness. Divorce. Existential angst. Legal problems. When these or other tough times are troubling your family or friends, you are concerned for them as well as affected yourself. It’s all too easy to say the wrong thing.

In  How Not to Say the Wrong Thing,  the authors explain their Ring Theory. The essence of it is “comfort in, dump out.”

Of course this doesn’t make sense without further explanation. Please take a few minutes to  read the original article,  so you’ll understand this simple and valuable approach. I think you’ll find it time very well spent.

What About You?

What’s been your experience with saying something to others in a crisis or being on the receiving end of what others have said? What do you think of the Ring idea?


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1 Maureen R August 16, 2013 at 5:05 pm

Really good article to read today! Love the circles idea 🙂

2 Bonnie August 17, 2013 at 9:53 pm

Glad you liked this, Maureen!

3 Hine October 5, 2013 at 9:55 pm

Great article – the closest to me at the time, my parents, firstly my dad, upon his demise, I prayed. I’ve had a Christian commitment, still do I trust but at the end of the day it was not my will but a decision between, I believe my father and the Lord (ie Higher Power) that he be released. My mother may have been different, however, the heavenly echoes come in different ways and for us still clothed in mortality there is a dimension that we do not cross until the end of our days.

4 Bonnie October 7, 2013 at 12:14 pm

Glad you liked the article, Hine.

5 Micheline June 16, 2014 at 6:21 pm

Excellent article. I certainly love this site. Stick with it!

6 Bonnie June 16, 2014 at 7:49 pm

Glad you liked this, Micheline. Thanks for your kind words about my site; those are always nice to hear.

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