Turning 60 — A Message from Me to You

by Bonnie

Since you’ve found your way to this blog, you’re likely a woman in the vicinity of 60.

The Downside

Perhaps you’re feeling apprehensive, troubled, or concerned about being 60. You might feel stuck in a life that’s no longer exciting to you and not seeing a future to really look forward to.

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 Sixty can be a bit jarring. There’s something about that number.

 I understand.

Sixty was the first time I was ever bothered about my age. I even had a few moments wondering if I could hide or lie about my age. My reaction shocked me.

I thought 60 was old and I did not want to be old. Nor did I want anyone else to think I was old.

Our culture’s messages are so negative about aging. Especially for women. It’s not surprising that we fear becoming old, invisible, cast aside, unwanted, marginalized.

But life isn’t over at 60.

The best is not behind you.

I’m not saying la la, no problem, everything is great, you’re going to live forever, nothing will change.
There is inner work to be done, stuff to face and deal with. There are changes ahead that may be challenging.

And there’s hope and possibility.

You can still have peace of mind, joy, and purpose. You can still live the full, wonderful life you desire.

If this appeals to you, I hope you’ll stick around and become part of this village of women who want to create lives they love in their 60s and beyond.

What about you? Click on Comments below, scroll down, and write away. Tell us about your experience of approaching or turning 60.

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1 Felice Ann August 5, 2016 at 6:47 am

I am at crossroads turning 60, I knew it was coming and I thought I had prepared myself. However for the first time in my life I feel less. I just got let go from my job and now I have to find another job, which is so daunting to me. Everything is done on line and interviews are usually with people more than less my age. I don’t know what to wear to interview. The questions they ask in the pre-employment screening don’t make sense. I just want to work and do a good job and get paid. My son has decided that he does not want or need me in his life and he is the only family I have. He says I don’t appreciate him enough. He is 30 years old and married to a woman that older and she has made it clear that she does not want to have anything to do with me without his presence. I have not been in a relationship in years and I find it hard to even think about dating again. I am hopelessly in a rut and I don’t know how to get out.

2 Bonnie August 8, 2016 at 9:27 am

Ouch, Felice! That is some hard stuff to deal with. Perhaps in the midst of all this, you could do some extra self-care, and nurturing yourself. Do more of what you love, what lights you up (energizes and enlivens you). Even small doses of this can help. It may not “solve” the problems and it might soothe and strengthen you so you can call on all your inner and outer resources to handle what life has thrown at you.

3 Shelley Evans August 16, 2016 at 11:36 am

Yes, I too am soon approaching the big 6-0 birthday! When much younger and people asked my age, I’d tell them honestly then add, “But I still act about 12. I’ll never grow up!” At 40-something, I realized that sounded a bit immature and changed it to “…I’ll never grow OLD!” I remember once calling my grandmother to wish her a happy birthday and asked her how old she was. When she said 75, I commented, “Well, it’s just a number.” She frantically said, “What number? Whose number?”

Life is what you make it and how you take it, no matter your age. I recently rediscovered my love of poetry writing after attending a writers’ conference (I’d never done that before). Most of my life I’ve been writing poetry, off and on, usually if/when inspired. Since that conference, I’m obsessed and have decided to write as much and often as I can, daily if possible. Although I still work full-time as a legal secretary and run two households with my husband of 39 years, I started a new company, Write On Poetry, taking orders and writing poems for people as gifts they want to give others. I’ve also begun the process of publishing a book of my poetry, so I have my work cut out for me! I am a poet and I know it, my feet show it – they’re longfellows!!!

Love and embrace your life, be passionate about your desires and dreams, go for it no matter what ~ God will bless it if you give Him all the glory. After all, He created us to be who we are and to live a life worthy of His creation.

4 Shelley Crocker August 19, 2016 at 3:10 am

I’m turning 65, feeling alone, daunted. I’m I feel scared all the time. Impending doom. I ask myself to many questions. What’s left to look forward to? Loss, illness, loneliness? It all quite honestly scares the beejeppers out of me! I’m ashamed to feel this way. I’ve always considered myself a spiritual person. Along this journey of aging I’ve become lost. This all sounds so depressing. I wonder if anyone else is feeling the weight of lost dreams, a life of diminished possibilities? Regrets? Nothing left? Spent. Curious to know others thoughts. I still feel attractive, I’m active. This is not about physical well being or attractiveness. It’s about AGING. I’m lonely, feel isolated no matter how many people I’m around. Some will say this is depression. Perhaps it is. Thoughts anyone?

5 Bonnie August 19, 2016 at 3:34 pm

Shelley, thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom with us. Your attitude should help to make your 60s very good years for you.

6 Bonnie August 19, 2016 at 3:42 pm

Shelley, I’m sorry you’re having such a tough time. Of course, many others have felt this way too. The journey of aging can be very challenging. If there’s ANY chance it might be depression, I hope you’ll get some help/do something to deal with this. Also, I’m wondering what spiritual practices you have found helpful in the past and if now might be a good time to return to them.

7 Suzanne October 5, 2016 at 9:30 am

Your blog is a fabulous resource for women our age! Creating my new blog, http://www.turningsixtytour.com, began as a first step toward savoring my sixties. Join me as I navigate these new waters embarking on a meditative road trip with my beloved dog, Woodrow. I look forward to reading more on your blog to help me find my way.

8 Bonnie October 5, 2016 at 4:14 pm

Hi, Suzanne! Thanks for your kind words about my blog. All the best to you on turning 60, your road trip, and your blog.

9 Xander October 23, 2016 at 8:09 pm

I just turned 60. Separated from my husband 3 yrs. ago & we got along fine (most of the time) until the actual divorce early this year. I went down hill after that. Started drinking more, being more outspoken. I was already on disability for a brain aneurysm & unremitting depression I’d had for years. My ex was giving me $200 a month that helped me live& survive. I am also an award winning graphic designer- used to work at agencies, but then free lanced from home. Continued to win awards & keep up with my colleagues- still do. But my girlfriends seemed to drop me slowly, when they found out so was poor and living in poverty, even though I was still winning awards. No one wanted to talk to me or hear about my depression & problems. I became more & more isolated & now there is hardly anything that brings me joy or fun. I have nothing in common with my rich healthy girlfriends, although I have helped them when they had a broken hip or foot, etc. They treat me like I’m a drag. I’m still funny, smart, play guitar & sing, am well read & keep up on the latest trends & politics. I look BETTER than most of them! I still get carded! But another one wants to hang with me anymore. Mostly because I can’t afford to go out to dinner or to a movie, etc. it’s like they shun me because I have no money and I still look good. I am very spiritual & most of them are not. It just seems so hard to make new friends at this age. And I feel like if given the chance, I could blossom right now. . And men look at you as if you’re invisible, even if you’re still beautiful. I am at a loss…

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